Whirling Dervish is going to be a big sister in a month-ish.
Her Mum is having a little boy and WD is, understandably very excited at having a brother to play with and boss around.
So, we are trying to manage her expectations (that was very consultant-speak), because it will be a huge change for her and also impact her time with us two.
When we first heard the news, we emphasised that things would be the same in our home, whilst things will be changing at home with her Mum.
We’ve tried to work with Whirling Dervish on her patience. At the moment, most of the time, there’s no reason for her to wait her turn for a drink/ a play/ attention. Nobody is up to their elbows in nappies, mid-feed, picking up up after a toddler’s trail of destruction. So sometimes now she has to wait ‘just because’ and, with us, she’s been fine.
Not so with her Mum, it seems. WD’s Mum asked Husband to speak to WD yesterday as WD had been ignoring when spoken to and answering back.
Now, my view is, why are WD’s Mum and her husband not dealing with it? Also, WD is knackered at the moment and a bit out of sorts, so I wouldn’t be surprised if she is lurgified soon.
Anyway, we three had a bit of chat about sometimes she might just have to do as she’s told without a reason (I will avoid going off on a “when I was a girl” rant). I talked about how I found it when I became a big sister.
So, we’ll see.
Whirling Dervish is also trying to get her head around why Baby Brother won’t have the same surname as her and also that he’ll be nothing to do with her Dad or Nanny and Grandad (Husband’s parents). Though this issue has been easier to tackle now she realises she doesn’t have to share them.
Feeling saintly anyway at all we’re trying to do, because some days I just want to shrug and say “nothing to do with us”, but that really wouldn’t be fair on Whirling Dervish.